Friends For LIFE

30 12 2011

Have you ever thought about what makes a good friend? I was recently reading Resolved, a book by best-selling author Orrin Woodward, and this question kept creeping back into my mind over and over again. The book lays out 8 principles that are essential for maintaining long-term friendships.

Now I don’t walk around with this checklist and caterorgize the people in my life based on how well they fit into these 8 principles, but I began to wonder, myself included, how any people can honestly say they have true friendships in life? The American Sociological Review stated in 2006 that the quality and quantity of friendship is declining. According to Woodward in his book, “The evidence shows that Americans have fewer confidants and those ties are also more family-based than they used to be. This change indicates something that is not good for our society. Ties with a close network of people create a safety net. These ties also lead to civic engagement and local political action.”

We are in a time in which we have more ways than ever to communicate but we don’t know each other better than we did 20 years ago because no one is listening! As I read the book I thought on each one of these and asked myself, how am I doing? Not happy with how I “scored” I resolved to not think in the past but how I am going to improve in the future.

1. True friends form around shared insights.

2. True friends accept one another.

3. True friends approve of one another.

4. True friends appreciate one another.

5. True friends listen with empathy.

6. True friends celebrate one another’s success.

7. True friends are trustworthy.

8. True friends are loyal.

Can you imagine a community of people that would Resolve to improve their friendships in these 8 areas?

Enjoy the journey!

Steve Leurquin

Merry Christmas From Steve and Jamie Leurquin

25 12 2011

We started a Christmas tradition a few years ago that on Christmas Eve we would all sleep on the living room floor. At 11:50 PM let’s do a roll call, wife-out, 9 year old-out, 7 year old-out, 3 year old-wide awake! As I am waiting for her to fall to sleep so I can “make some deliveries” I am thinking if only I would have known then what I know now before  starting a family tradition.

Passing the time I began searching for one of my favorite comedians Tim Hawkins and I found this funny piece on Christmas.

Merry Christmas to everyone as we remember the true meaning of what this day is all about. Enjoy this poem I found on Dan Hawkins’ Leadership Blog on the true meaning of Christmas.

Lisa and I wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas! We hope you are enjoying the holiday and staying focused on the real reason for the season!

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

God bless, Dan and Lisa Hawkins

True Christian Christmas

Christmas isn’t showy gifts
Or glittering decoration;
It’s honoring our Savior, Jesus Christ
In humble adoration.

It’s serving those less fortunate,
Meeting their needs before our own;
It’s making sure at Christmas time
That no one is alone.

It’s taking what we would have spent
On things that no one needs,
And using it to help someone
With service and good deeds.

Our Savior showed us how to live
With charity, faith and service.
It makes the holidays a joy,
More peaceful, and less nervous.

So let’s remember Christmas is
About our Savior’s birth;
That’s the way to happiness,
The way to peace on earth.

By Joanna Fuchs

 Merry Christmas, Steve Leurquin

Are You Younger Than A 72 Year-Old?

17 12 2011

A few years ago I met a great man at the health club where I exercise. I’d like to introduce him to you because I hope he is as big of an inspiration to you as he is to me. What makes him so special is that he is doing what every man hopes to have the will and courage to do, live life to the fullest. I got the idea to write a leadership article on Don because even though he was born March 11th, 1939, (Yes, that makes him 72!) he is able to out lift almost all the guys at the health club (including me). Although surgeries and the inevitable father time have been rough on him he is young at heart, proving age truly is a state of mind.

This is Don bench pressing 335lbs!

When and where were you born?

I was born March 11, 1939 just north of Jefferson, Wisconsin in the house I grew up in.  (I was going to make an old age joke but thought it not good for my health :))

Tell me about your family.

I have been married for 50 years to Cathy. I have three kids, 7 grandkids, and 3 great grandkids. 

Were you in the armed-forces?

I served for four years in the Navy as a Gunners Mate from 1956-1960. I traveled to many places like Australia, Singapore, New Zealand, China, Japan, and Hawaii. I was never in any combat but came close. As we were sailing down to the Panama Canal they cleared up the conflict before we got there. 

You lift a lot of weight for anybody much less a guy almost 73. Tell me how you do it?

Seven years ago I started lifting again after many years off. I had two shoulder surgeries on each shoulder and figured I better start doing something. So I started with the bar (45lbs) and worked my way up from there.

I set a goal to bench 315lbs on my 7oth birthday, a weight I have never put up in my life. On that day I bench pressed 325 pounds!

How do you stay so fit?

I just stay active. I workout five days a week. I guess I just keep moving then it’s not so hard to get started again. I set goals and then go after them.

Don, you’re pretty sharp and quick-witted with the young whipper snappers around here, what do you do to stay so “mentally fit?”

I read a lot. I like Western Books, National Geographic, and I like reading history.

You’ve been married 50 years! Any advice for us “youngins” on how to have a healthy, happy marriage?

Marriage is a give and take. You have to have patience with each other to work things out. The problem now-a-days is that at the first sign of trouble everyone wants to get a divorce. 

The goal of Team LIFE Leadership is provide people information in the 8F’s for them to keep striving for a better life. Don teaches a valuable leadership lesson. Never stop growing, never stop changing is the message he teaches as he is living that message every day by example. Thanks for the inspiration Don!

Enjoy the journey.  Steve Leurquin

Are You Giving 100% In LIFE?

12 12 2011

I was listening to a leadership recording the other day by Top 10 Leadership Guru and best-selling Author Orrin Woodward in which he gave a great example from his youth about doing his best. As a high school senior cross country runner he was content with the status of being the second best runner on the team. Then, the race came where a freshman on the team was attempting to pass Orrin. That didn’t sit well with him as he had a rule that freshman do not beat seniors. He unleashed his best not only holding off the freshman but passing the team number 1 runner finishing first-team all district.

It got me thinking to how many times in my life I have settled for less then my best thinking that was all I had to give. A great movie scene from Facing The Giants shows a young man who because he is holding back his best, hurts the whole team’s performance.

“God’s gifted you with the ability of leadership, don’t waste it.”

Sometimes I shutter in one of those cold, hair standing on the back of the neck feelings, thinking about who in this world I am hurting by playing it small?

I think of Great leaders like Tim Marks, Dan Hawkins, and BIll Lewis. All men that lead thousands of people now but at one time were faced with the question, do I continue on my current path or do I follow the leadership road less traveled so that my light will give other people the courage to do the same? I’m glad they chose wisely!  Enjoy the journey, Steve Leurquin 

Our Deepest Fear In LIFE?

8 12 2011

Several years ago I was introduced to LIFE Team Leadership Development by Dan and Lisa Hawkins. At the time I already thought I was a leader as I was a father, husband, teacher, and coach. What I didn’t realize was that leadership, true leadership is identifying what we fear most in life and attacking those fears.

I came across this poem when I was watching a great dream-struggle-victory movie Coach Carter. I was going to provide my own insight after each paragraph addressing fear, but I think the words say it all.

Our Deepest Fear
By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? 
You are a child of God.

Your playing small 
Does not serve the world. 
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking 
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, 
As children do. 
We were born to make manifest 
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; 
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, 
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 
As we’re liberated from our own fear, 
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Orrin Woodward, Dan Hawkins, Founders of LIFE, thank you for not playing it small, overcoming your fears, and allowing your presence to liberate others!  Steve Leurquin 

What Is Your Goal In LIFE?

3 12 2011

Reading Orrin Woodward’s book Launching a Leadership Revolution it struck me how important it is to have continued hunger for life. In chapter 2 Woodward discusses the importance of having three levels of motivation to that build on each other in order of importance.

Level 1:  Material Success –  Things that you enjoy doing or having that you can pay cash for.

Level 2: Recognition and Respect – Looking for respect from people you respect.

Level 3: Purpose, Destiny, and Legacy – What am I doing with my life?  Believe in your purpose/destiny/legacy and act on it!

I came across this awesome video while looking at another great leader in Team Leadership Mark Huber. There are many quotes in it that get my heart pumping to what it is that I want to give back to this world. But the one that gets me the most comes in the first 2o seconds:

“My brothers, what we do in life, echoes in eternity!”  -Maximus in the movie Gladiator.

I ask you, what will you do to leave your mark? What is your purpose? What is your level three motivator that will echo in eternity?  Enjoy, Steve Leurquin


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