Disciplined Vs Undisciplined

19 11 2013

Every man has 24 hours in his day. So what makes one squeeze every ounce of productivity in the 1,440 minutes while one man can Happinessnot seem to get enough done?  I recently read a book by Shawn Achor called Happiness Advantage where he lays out a principle called the 20 second rule that I believe answers this question.

This is not some theory about how long your food can lay on the ground before you can safely eat it. Shawn talks about how people who are successful systematically set up their lives to make success come easier. It’s not about will power because our will power can last only so long before we crack and go back to the easier path of resistance. He states if we make small adjustments we can “reroute” ourselves to doing the habits we know we should do to achieve greatness.

Hogwash you say! Let me tell you a real life example of how I applied this. I listen to at least three audio recordings a day from successful people to enhance my success in life. Recently my wife and I moved and I could not figure out why I was only getting in about 1 to 2 cd’s per day. What I found was that my habit of success was altered in my new setting thus taking me longer than 20 seconds to do what I new I should do for success but I wouldn’t because it was no longer just habit. I had to look at my new surroundings at set up this habit so every morning it took little thought and less than 20 seconds to start this principle of success. I set up a new pattern for myself and am now achieving back to and beyond the level I was previously doing.

Let’s take a more difficult example. We all now we should exercise, but how many of us do it? Why? Because when we wake up in the morning an hour early, the covers are much more appealing than sweating. When we wake up and start thinking about getting our clothes on and finding our shoes, if it takes longer than twenty seconds we have already lost and guilt will be with us the rest of the day.

The solution? Take the path of least resistance. If you truly want to make this a habit. Wear your exercise clothes to bed and put your shoes next to you on the floor. When the alarm goes off and you barely have to put thought into what you are doing your halfway out the door! Do this for 21 days and you have created a new success habit.

Try it! Try a small change that you have been hoping to make and see how it works. Nothing breeds success like success and you will be on to tackling bigger areas of your life. Steve Leurquin

 

 





Wrestling-Life-Hero

30 09 2013

It seems as though people doing great things is becoming cool again! After many years of a constant bombardment of negative happenings being the only thing highlighted in the media, I have had an enormous amount of people sending me stories of great people doing even greater things!

Thanks to the heroes like the two gentlemen you about to see, our generation is waking up to the fact that when you realize where you came from, everyone should be treated like the special creation they are!  Demetrius…..Thank you! 

This life is a great journey, Enjoy it! Steve Leurquin

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We share a pretty thorough amount of stuff to make you cry on this site, from sick kids in wheelchairs scoring touchdowns to army dads returning home to surprise their families todead dog mascots who tweet from Heaven, so it’s amazing to me that a story as inspiring and touching as the one between Atlanta high schoolers Demetrius de Moors and Michael Lind could be almost a year old and not have any major mainstream coverage.

Demetrius was set to compete in Georgia’s prestigious South Metro Wrestling Tournament and stepped in against Lind, a kid with Down Syndrome. I won’t spoil it for you in an asinine paragraph, but if you’ve got five free minutes, watch this video in its entirety, cry a little bit, and feel a hell of a lot better about humanity.

 

It’s such a great story, even if Randy Orton makes an unwelcome cameo.

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Demetrius ended up winning a 2012 National Sportsmanship Award for his efforts, and it was well-deserved. But hey, Demetrius? It’s okay to tell your mom when you do something cool like this.

People are pretty okay sometimes, huh?

 





Assist of a Champion, Shot of a Lifetime

20 09 2013

There are moments when I am just so proud to be a human being I just can’t stand it! With tears in my eyes I watched this video several time and I am in awe of God’s glory! God? You may ask. God didn’t pass Mitchell the ball.

Well, if a creator did not exist, if we were just products of chance and only the fittest survive in a quest of superiority to advance the best genes, then Jonathan would have never done what he did and Coach Moralas would not even bother taking Mitchell under his care. There is absolute truth and thank you to Coach, Mitchell, and Jonathan for your shinning light of how great that truth can be!

Enjoy the video, Steve Leurquin





Walk A Mile In Someone Else’s Shoes

27 05 2013

One phase that I have tried to eliminate from my vocabulary is, “I know exactly how you feel.” We may have gone through simliar experiences but as we are all created uniquely thus, we all deal with lives events in our own way.

A quality of leadership is understanding people. One of the best ways I have discovered to understanding people is to be on a continuous course of self-improvement. We will never know exactly how how people feel, but striving to always better ourselves, especially in the area of relationships, we can understand with more empathy, the people in our lives.

For the past several years I have been on a self-directed leadership education with LIFE. The information has helped me be a better teacher, coach, and now a business owner. People can say what they want about leadership development but they can not argue with the results it has for people who have worked to implement the principles into their lives.

I always try to walk a mile in other people’s shoes before I make a judgement on anything. This help me understand before making any kind of decision in the several areas of leadership I am in. Well…..I always felt I wanted to know how my wife felt bringing our three great children into this world. After watching this video, I’m pretty sure I never want to find out.

Enjoy, Steve Leurquin





Ben Carson at The National Prayer Breakfast

18 02 2013

Check out Orrin Woodward’s post from last week showing Ben Carson at the National Prayer Breakfast speaking the truth. I will let the write up by Mr. Woodward and the video speak fot itself, but I will add that when truth is spoken it is music to the ears! Thank you Mr. Carson for having the courage to speak the truth no matter who is watching.

Enjoy, Steve Leurquin

 

Dr. Ben Carson at the National Prayer Breakfast

Posted by Orrin Woodward on February 14, 2013

I woke up early this morning excited to watch Benjamin Carson’stalk at the National Prayer Breakfast. So many people have emailed me the link and said it reminded them of concepts shared by Oliver DeMille and me in the soon-to-be-released book LeaderShift. There is a law of life, similar to the one in science, that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Today, America is drifting further and further towards a socialist nanny state; thankfully, however, a reaction is rising amongst leaders from all fields of life who are concerned about the direction of our society and are willing to do something about it. I sincerely believe that character-based leadership is needed more today in America than at any point since the founding of our nation.

Ben Carson, in this speech, made a stand for truth on education, history, and leadership. Not surprisingly, many of the concepts discussed in Dr. Carson’s speech are outlined in LeaderShift to help solve our national malaise. In other words, concerned Americans are not alone. Nonetheless, we need many more leaders to stand up and launch the LeaderShift! When faced with great challenges, the citizen’s choices reduce to two main paths: either shrink into silence and oppression or rise into leadership and liberty. What choice will the reader make? I believe we are entering great times for courageous leaders to live.

Sincerely,

Orrin Woodward





What Motivates You?

4 02 2013

Inspiring movie clips, speeches, quotes, I can’t get enough of them to help with personal motivation! There is nothing like thinking through your goals and what the future will bring while watching someone who has already achieved greatness tell you you can do it.

Over the years I have seen many great inspirational clips. For this blog I have decided to pit two of them against each other for you, the readers of this blog to decide with your vote which is better. Watch the videos and then in the comment section place your vote for your choice. Voting will end one week from today and you can only vote once per day. Tell your friends to vote because it will be public record as to who you voted for and it will be forever bragging rights if you voted for the winner :)

Enjoy, Steve Leurquin





Training Your Life For Success

29 01 2013

On becoming a leaderAll great leaders overcome. Many have to overcome financial hardship either being born into poverty or the financial risk it takes to get ahead. Others have to overcome circumstances of overcoming physical limitations or being born into cultures that do not naturally nurture the gifts they were born with. Warren Bennis explains in his book On Becoming A Leader, all will have to overcome obstacles but the toughest obstacle to overcome is oneself.

Bennis stresses the importance of knowing oneself to overcome any obstacle. The bad news is that we all struggle with self-imposed limitations that stem from our thinking. The good news is all of those limitations can be defeated by reframing our thinking in a constant search of knowing ourself.

All of the leaders I talked with agreed that no one can teach you how to become yourself, to take charge, to express yourself, except you.” 

I have read many books about great leaders, past and present, with a common theme, all of them struggled throughout their journey with their own negative thinking. I recently read books about a national championship coach and a super bowl winning quarterback and do you know what both of them struggled with? Their own bad thinking. Now if leaders at that level with that much success struggle with themselves how do you think your friend is doing? How about yourself?

Author Bennis explains there are four ways to develop your self-knowledge in-turn destroying your self doubt.

1. Know that you are your best teacher - Learning is intimately connected to self and the only way to learn is to get out there and do thus learning the lesson through self-evaluation.

2. Accept responsibility – Blame no one.

3. You can learn anything you want to learn.

4. True understanding comes from reflecting on your experience – Having a conversation with yourself at asking good questions at the appropriate time to come to truth about you and your life.

Leadership is a tough game only because the four things above are so easy to do, but they are even easier not to do. When one begins to do the easy over the easier their leadership journey has begun.

Steve Leurquin





LIFE Building And Bonding

11 12 2012

IMG_0291For the second year Jamie and I were able to spend some time in Florida with LIFE Founders Orrin and Laurie Woodward and Dan and Lisa Hawkins. To have some fun in the sun with great mentors, friends, and business partners was truly an unforgetible, priceless event.

We spent some time at the Woodward estate eating, playing sports, and cruising on their 76 foot yacht with about 50 people that are living a life on purpose making a difference in this country. With so many great minds  all in one setting my favorite thing to do is listen as every person there shares what their passions are and what purpose they are running to. In a country that so many have “arrived” and stopped working for continuous improvement it is so refreshing to be with a group who is chasing after a dream.

After many of our friends went home, Jamie and I were able to celebrate freedom by renting a house on a waterway with our family creating memories that will last forever. Just being able to have the time to truly relax, catch fish, and go to the ocean without a care in the world truly brings a family together.

Jamie and I have truly been blessed and we look forward to many other leaders in LIFE gaining their freedom to be able to live the life they have always wanted.

Steve Leurquin





Power of Personality

18 11 2012

Recently I read a post from Author and community leader of thousands Tim Marks. The two things I respect about Tim Marks is his perspective he brings from his own life and his humility in knowing that he can learn something from anybody. Enjoy His perspective on a great book that has helped many in all 8f’s of their lives. Steve Leurquin

 

Four Personality Temperaments

Published October 12, 2012 | By Tim Marks

As we each build our leadership communities, one thing that quickly becomes obvious is that people are unique!  Everyone has their own history, their own list of accomplishments, their own family situation, their favorite sport, favorite food, and their own personality style.  Despite all of the differences, when you start spending a lot of time with a lot of people over the years, you start to see some patterns in behavior emerge.  For example, you see that certain people are shy, and certain people are really confident.  Some people really love details and tasks, and some people just love to be around friends.  With practice, you can start to recognize the general patterns in people’s personalities, it can help you understand them a little better and relate to them more successfully.

 

Recognizing the different personality styles is nothing new.  People have been studying other people for as long as people have been around!  For example, a very famous Greek Philosopher named Hippocrates (after whom the Hippocratic Oath for medical practitioners is named) believed that in order to be healthy, your body needed equal amounts of four specific liquids. He called these liquids “humors” and they listed them as black bile, yellow bile, phlegm (“flem”), and blood. If you got sick, Hippocrates and his students thought it was because you had too much of one of these humors. So, they tried to cure you by removing some of those fluids! (Not always successfully, mind you, and not a very wise decision to begin with.  Just imagine the conversation!  “Hey Pythagoras, you still sick?  Well, let’s drain off a few quarts of that yucky blood stuff you’ve got inside and see if that doesn’t put some spring in yer step!”)

Fast forward a few thousand years and we humans are still trying to figure out ourselves and the people around us!  Luckily, some very smart people have done a lot of the heavy lifting for us.  A wonderful author, Florence Littauer, has written a great book to help us understand the four personality types.  That book is Personality Plus, available through the LIFE website, and I really recommend you get a copy and start to master your understanding of the four personalities!   Why take the time to learn more about our personality style, as well as the people around us?  Because by better understanding ourselves, we know who we really are and why we react the way we do in certain situations.  We can recognize our strengths and amplify them, and we can be aware of our weakness and manage them more effectively.  When I got started in community building, my upline leaders Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady both took me aside and gently suggested that I learn more about the Choleric personality and study some people skills books, because my demanding choleric nature was a definite weakness for me!  So, let’s dive into our four personality styles: Melancholy, Phlegmatic, Sanguine, and Choleric!  (And yes, Melancholy’s, I know that isn’t in alphabetical order… it’s not the end of the world!)

Sanguine

This is the outgoing, people-oriented social-type. Sanguines are also known as the “Popular” type. They enjoy fun, socializing, chatting, telling stories – and are fond of promising the world, because that’s the friendly thing to do. A Sanguine gets on well with people and can get others excited about issues, but cannot always be relied upon to get things done. They love interacting with others and play the role of the entertainer or center of attention in group interactions. They have a tendency to over-promise and under-deliver.   A Sanguine would benefit from LISTENING more and letting other people tell stories… and not trying to upstage them!  As well, if you are a Sanguine and don’t know the correct answer, DON’T make up the numbers… the Melancholy’s will spot you doing it and you’ll lose their respect!  Some famous examples are Bill Clinton, Robin Williams, Kelly Ripa and Richard Simmons.

Melancholy

This is the reserved, task-oriented cautious type. Melancholies are also known as the “Perfect” type.  Their typical behavior involves thinking, assessing, making lists, evaluating the positives and negatives, and general analysis of facts. They love maps, charts and graphs. They are usually the most intelligent of the four types; however they tend to dwell on details. A Melancholy is a planner, making sure things happen, although sometimes they can paralyze themselves with over-analysis. Lists and “doing things the right way” are characteristics of this personality type.  Melancholy’s need to loosen up and let their hair down.  No one is perfect, even if a Melancholoy tries to be.  Don’t be so hard on yourself when you make a mistake… you are probably your own toughest critic.  Probably no one else noticed, so you don’t need to point out your error.  Remember that Cholerics and Sanguines are bored to tears with details, even if you find the details interesting.  When presenting to them, try to summarize the key points and move on.  Some famous examples are Hillary Clinton, Bill Gates, and Beethoven.

Phlegmatic

This is the reserved and people-oriented type. They are easy going, laid back, nonchalant, unexcitable and relaxed.  Desiring a quiet and peaceful environment above all else. They tend not to actively upset people, but their indifference may frustrate people. They try not to make decisions, and generally go for the status quo. They are good as mediators because they don’t usually have many enemies. Phlegmatics are also known as the “Peaceful” type; they tend to want everyone to get along and not rock the boat.  They also have a “dry” and quick sense of humor. Phlegmatic leaders may not move as quickly as real Cholerics, but they can be just as—or even more—effective.  They may not work harder, but they just may work smarter!  If you are a Phlegmatic, you don’t have to say “yes” to every request… sometimes other people will take advantage of you if you don’t set up some boundaries and say “no” once in a while.  Some famous examples are Calvin Coolidge, Tim Duncan, and Keanu Reeves (Not his Matrix action-hero character, mind you… His Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure surfer character.)

 

Choleric

I’ve put Cholerics last so that they can practice being patient and recognize that they aren’t always the alpha male in the room!  :)  This is the outgoing and task-oriented style.  Choleric are dominant, strong, decisive, stubborn and sometimes even arrogant.  Cholerics are also known as the “POWEFUL” type.  They tend to be good leaders because they are driven to get things done.  Unfortunately, they might offend some people along the way by not taking their feelings into account and stepping on some toes.  We joke that they are often wrong but never in doubt!  Cholerics often have the answers; they know what to do; they can make quick decisions; they bail others out in a jam—but they can struggle with being popular because their assurance and assertiveness make others feel insecure, and their ability to lead can easily make them appear bossy. Powerful Choleric should try to soften their approach with people while maintaining their amazing work ethic and results so that others will celebrate the Cholerics and not be offended by them.  As Orrin Woodward’s amazing wife Laurie Woodward has said, “The #1 job of Cholerics is to love your people.”  Some famous examples are Donald Trump, General Patton and Bill O’Reilly.

So we’ve briefly touched on each of the four personalities, but it gives you a good introduction to them.  It’s my hope this blog inspires you to devour Personality Plus.  One thing to always remember: no personality style is better than the other.  Each has strengths and weaknesses.  Each style is complemented by someone else…. Which is why working as part of a team can be so powerful!  If you haven’t done so, take the time to read this book and learn about these styles.  If you’ve read the book once, read it again and master it!  You’ll discover the people around you are amazing!





Nothing Is Free

8 11 2012

The other day I was with my son at a store. As we came up to the counter there was a bowl of mints for the taking. When I turned around to look at him he had one handful of tasty treats and was reaching up to fill his other hand. At this point I told him to stop and take only one. Next is our conversation that took place.

“But Dad, they’re free!”

“Nothing is free, somebody has to pay for them.”

“But dad, I don’t have to pay for them Dad.”

“Aidan, If you take more than you need then there will not be enough for others to enjoy. And if you abuse the “free stuff” pretty soon the people who are offering it will stop.”

This was such a great conversation and one of many hundreds of teachable moments that happen with me and my children over the course of a week. He got it! An eight year old understood this concept yet I can’t quite seem to get it across to people more advanced in years.

As I watch the political lanscape being laid out I think of how often I see the word “free” being thrown around as to the services that the government will provide. Next time you see the word I hope you think of the lesson my son learned and know that nothing is free, someone has to pay for it. The only difference between the store owner’s mints and many (not all) government services (handouts) is that one of them provided it voluntarily.

Steve Leurquin

 

 








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