The other day I came across a man I knew when I was growing up and asked how he was doing, to which he replied, “living the dream.” Yet, everything in his voice and body language told me he was doing everything but. I know that every person was blessed with the ability to dream and deep down inside has a dream they would love to be running to. After my short interaction with this gentleman, someone I had always looked up to as an adventurous, goal driven person, I began to wonder, what causes someone to give up their dream?
In the book Put Your Dream To The Test, John Maxwell defines a dream as …an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it. In a nutshell a dream is what makes us feel alive. In one of the greatest countries in the world, with more technology to make our lives easier, and more opportunity than ever, whyhave so many people given up on “living the dream?”
Maxwell gives five most common reasons people have trouble identifying (or give up on) their dream:
5. Lack of Imagination – It’s inside you! Think of when you were a child and could dream of anything. You are not an accident and are here for a purpose. Go find that purpose!
4. Lack of Confidence Needed to Pursue Dream – Sometimes confidence separates people who pursue their dreams from those who don’t.
3. Settling for Average – Mediocrity is a personal choice.
2. Hindered by Past Disappointments and Hurts – Mistakes are how we grow. Just don’t make the same ones.
1. Discouraged From Dreaming by Others – Some people who aren’t pursuing their dreams don’t like to see others pursuing theirs. Other people’s success makes them feel inadequate or insecure.
“Most men live lives of quiet desperation” and “Most men die at 25 and wait until 75 to be buried” are two quotes that explained my life well. All five Maxwell reasons for giving up on a dream could describe where I was several years ago. I am very thankful I got my LIFE back.
If you have given up on your dream I encourage you to go find it. It will make you feel alive. Enjoy the journey, Steve Leurquin.