The other day I heard a conversation that surprised me a bit to say the least. There were three ladies having a conversation when the husband of one called on the cell phone. He had left the location where she was and he was calling to apologize for accidentally taking her car keys with him when he left and that he would be bringing them back as soon as he could.
Sounds harmless enough. What surprised me was the other two ladies response to the husbands call. They were absolutely floored that her husband had just apologized! They were saying things like, “I can’t believe I just heard that come from a man’s mouth” and “My husband never apologizes to me”.
This encounter led met to believe guys, how much smoother things would run on the homefront if we just learned the lost art of apologizing. LIFE-Team Leadership had a book that came down through their leadership development system a couple years ago by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas titled The Five Langauges of Apology. I know for a fact the gentleman in the above story has read this book surely garnishing him many brownie points in the relationship.
The authors explain that we each have a language of apology we need to hear before we truly forgive the other person. The easy part is knowing them. The hard part is knowing what other people’s apology language and even harder is saying it.
The Five Languages of Apology are:
1. Expressing Regret – “I am sorry.”
2. Accepting Responsibility – “I was wrong.”
3. Making Restitution – “What can I do to make it right.”
4. Genuinely Repenting – I’ll try not to do it again.”
5. Requesting Forgiveness – “Will you please forgive me.”
Now guys, before you send me messages in outrage that I would make this information known I want you to think of benefits of reading and implementing this one area into your lives. I’m a man so I’m posting this to the men who read my blog, but I imagine if a wife saw her husband reading this you not only could knock her over with a feather, but she just might pick it up as well!
Enjoy, Steve Leurquin